Is there a free intimacy app for couples?

Several apps have free versions. With Tacitavia the web questionnaire and basic profile are free, and the app has a free plan with weekly limits.

Do both partners need to pay?

With Tacitavia one subscription covers the couple. Check this with any app before you buy – some charge each partner separately.

Can my partner see everything I answer?

It depends on the app. In daily-question apps you usually see each other’s answers. In Tacitavia only shared desires are revealed and refusals stay private.

Intimacy apps for couples: how to choose one

Updated November 8, 2026

An intimacy app for couples helps partners talk about and improve their sex life – through questions, desire matching, ideas or planning. The apps differ mainly in what happens after you find a match and in how carefully they treat very private data.

The main types

Daily question apps – both partners answer a question and see each other’s answer (for example Paired).
Sexual wellness apps – audio guides, exercises and courses (for example Coral).
Desire matching apps – both swipe or tick activities and see only the matches (for example Spicer, Desire and similar).
Planning apps – turn shared desires into concrete evenings and learn from how they went (Tacitavia).

What to check before you choose

Privacy: does the app store your answers together with your name and email? Can your partner see your refusals?
What happens after a match: does the app stop at “you both like X”, or help you actually do it?
Discretion: does the icon or notification reveal what the app is about?
Price model: does one subscription cover both partners?
Tone: playful, clinical, explicit – choose what both of you are comfortable with.

Why matching alone is often not enough

Many couples discover shared wishes and then nothing changes. Knowing that you both like something does not answer when, where, who starts and what to prepare – and those small questions are exactly where good intentions stall.

Tacitavia focuses on that gap. It plans the evening, tells each partner only what they need to know, and after the evening asks how it went, so the next suggestions fit you better.

Privacy is not a detail

Data about your sex life is among the most sensitive data there is. Tacitavia stores your answers without your name or email, keeps photos of toys only on your phone and never shows one partner what the other declined.

Find out what you both want – privately

Each partner answers the questionnaire alone. You get a free profile, and your “no” is never shown to your partner.

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Common questions

Is there a free intimacy app for couples?: Several apps have free versions. With Tacitavia the web questionnaire and basic profile are free, and the app has a free plan with weekly limits.
Do both partners need to pay?: With Tacitavia one subscription covers the couple. Check this with any app before you buy – some charge each partner separately.
Can my partner see everything I answer?: It depends on the app. In daily-question apps you usually see each other’s answers. In Tacitavia only shared desires are revealed and refusals stay private.

This guide is general information about relationships, not medical or psychological advice. If sex causes pain or distress, talk to a doctor or a qualified therapist.